Patients about therapy

• The therapy has changed my life...

  
  

  This therapy changed my life.
  Now I can pursue my dreams and job aspirations.
  It was 2004 and i was 24 years old.
  And now I am a lecturer at the university.
  It is for real.
  I do wish all of you good luck and perseverance - it's worth it!
  Greetings for Mrs. Bernadeta.

  
  

  Marcin from Żywiec
  e-mail: ruciu.mr@interia.pl

• Dear Mrs Bernadeta,

  
  

  I'd like to thank you for the chance, for my second life.
  Thanks to the therapy I can function lake a normal person. Only someone, who has gone through that can understand it. And you, of course, Mrs. Bernadeta. And I can't thank you enough for a chance for my now 8-year-old son. Unfortunately, at the age of 4, after his sister was born, he started to stutter. Thanks to your help, hard work, patience and great heart we have overcome the problem. Today Maciuś is a wonderful, happy boy, who forgot about stuttering completely. Mrs. Bernadeta, it's like I was given a third chance and third life!!! Thank you from all our hearts!!!

  
  

  Mother (10 years from therapy)
  Son (3 years from therapy)
  Ewa Zając

  
  

• "Four months ago I started the speech therapy"

  
  

  Four months ago I started the speech therapy and I had a thought that it was high time I wrote few words about it, especially having in mind the individuals, who like me previously, are considering undergoing the therapy.

  
  

  The hardest part for me as the stammerer was constant disruption of the social relationships. An inability to say what I wanted to say at that time and place made me feel unnatural; I felt that due to my speaking problems I couldn’t be fully myself, that I always had to pretend someone else. That was a huge inner problem to me and as I stopped socialising I became a more closed person and only me could know how serious the problem was.

  
  

  For about ten years I didn’t say what I intended to say but what I was able or what was possible for me to say as close as possible what I initially intended.

  
  

  For those who don’t understand the problem it may seem funny but for someone who does understand it, it is not funny at all. I would describe the mechanism of my old speech as constant replacing or skipping words, changing the sequence of the words in a sentence (all efforts made to be able to finally express myself, to be able to talk) versus constant severe stress, loss of time, unnecessary thoughts and tiredness. The simplest problems like introducing myself, saying few things about myself, say ‘Hello’ or ‘Good bye’ were creating a big pile of constraints in the everyday life. On the other hand, I knew, that certainly something could be done with that problem because I felt I was able to speak fluently, but for some reason I couldn’t make it happen.

  
  

  I made the decision about the speech therapy while taking my Master’s degree. I knew that after my graduation greater and greater challenges were ahead of me and I would have to deal with it. That perspective of new tasks on the new ground made my final decision to attend the speech therapy in Margonin. The only question that was left was: when? Just before or after the graduation? The choice was based on the period of the ‘slow speech’. I decided to start the therapy as soon as possible. Today I know, it was the right decision. I graduated successfully in the third month of the ‘slow speech’ period. Comparing the situation now to the one from just before the course, I can confess that the greatest change the therapy introduced into my life is COMFORT-the ability to say exactly what I want to say and that was my main aim. Had I postponed the decision of undertaking the course, the graduation would have costed me more effort and stress as the final exam was oral. I didn’t have to think about word replacement or skipping them, in addition, in such situations, certain words are irreplaceable.

  
  

  Today I know that fear of the ‘slow speech ‘ period was only a natural fear of something new, unknown, and slower speech is nothing to be afraid of in contrast to logophobia . Just after all that the possibility of a doctorate appeared , which I wouldn’t have taken under consideration before. Thanks to early attendance to the therapy, more doors are open for me now.

  
  

  Just as I mentioned at the beginning of my letter, stammering causes disruption in social relations. From my experience it shows, that being OK with you, is being open to people, real smile is the key to happy relations among people. It is very important to stay positive and certain about what I do and the decisions I’ve made (I mean the speech therapy). As I finish I’ll introduce my aims that I listed on my way to meet Mrs Bernadeta Standowicz for the first time:

  
  

  -get rid of logophobia
  -to learn how to speak with calm and being understood by society
  -become more self-confident while speaking
  -to break bad habits while talking
  -to get back my real and fluent speech.

  
  

  Even when my therapy wasn’t ended yet, I could already say that my goals were already achieved. I took a lot of engagement in the whole process of the therapy.

  
  

  The most important point is, that previously I had no influence over my stammer whereas nowadays my ‘new speech’ is dependant on me , the realisation and practicing few new exercises over the period of the whole course provides me with a fluent speech without logophobia on unnecessary worries. That is why, in my opinion, it is not worth it to be afraid of changes for better.

  
  

  Artur from Wrocław
  2009, November 5

• "Miricles do happen"

  
  

  This miracle was our meeting with Mrs Bernadeta Standowicz. Many years ago, when our seven year old son-Maksymilian was about to start his primary school, our parental worries were focused on his speech. The stammer was noticeable since our son learned to talk. We believed that it will go away with time, but that never happened, and it was even getting worse. When our son was seven, we realised, that it is the last call to look for help. It was 2001 and I sat in front of my computer and searched for the word: stammer. And the miracle happened. Among so many search results we got the information on Margonin. We thought we had to try. Today, after so many years, it is difficult to describe our happiness and luck, because we have met many families thant spent years on useless ‘therapies’ that were taking their children to in a good faith that they will help. We managed to avoid that experience. In May 2001 writing these words as a father of Maksymilian, were both attended the course for stammerers. It was a hard work actually. But was the satisfaction when we saw after few days that something moved. During the first day when I heard the words being said with such an effort by all the participants, it was a huge emotional experience for me (as so far I had dealt with my child’s stammer only). Only my great trust to Mrs Standowicz made be believe that all would be fine. And then the end of the therapy in Marginin was a start at the same time of another stage, the home therapy, much harder one. But we couldn’t give up especially when we had monthly meetings so-called marathons. For us, a marathon itself was to drive 1000km both ways.

  
  

  Reading few other opinions online, the word ‘miracle’ came up few times. But the cure of our baby is a ‘miracle’ itself. The miracle is also a very hard work of Mrs Bernadeta, who was able to mobilize all of us to do it.

  
  

  Today in 2008 our son is attending first class of gymnasium in Lublin and no longer remembers him stammering. But he perfectly remembers Mrs Bernadeta which gave our son the chance for better life. We all took that chance.

  
  

  Kind regards to Mrs Bernadeta

  
  

  Monika, Paweł, Maksymilian & Marcelina Podleśni
  Lublin 2008, January 6

  
  

  We are very happy to give an advice and share our experience:
  - Our contact is 0601673789, 0603074934,
  e-mail: emdent@poczta.onet.pl

• Dear Mrs Bernadeta,

  
  

  A year has passed since we started our marathon, and I can assure you, that we will remember this period till the rest of our lives because it changed the life of our whole family. That was You who gave us chance and we consequently realised step by step our goal. Let’s leave all the difficulties in the past and today we are all happy to see our son who doesn’t stammer anymore. Thanks to therapy our son became a different child, he believed in himself and is happy. He left the world of loneliness, insecurity and no tolerance behind him. Today he already knows how to cope in difficult situations and most importantly, has many plans for the future. We, parents, believe that our son will do well, but we will keep our attention and support him anytime, but what he has already and what we have learnt, is just great. We are all very happy and each of us is saying: thank you.

  
  

  We had a great amount of luck that it was given to us to meet You and participate in the therapy.

  
  

  We wish You success, happiness and persistence in Your work as well as belief that you meet expectations of those like us, who came with hope and received it.

  
  

  With kind regards
  
  Barbara and Andrzej Ratajczakowie
  Our son Krzysztof
  Poznań, 09.02.2001 r.
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• A miracle happened!

  
  

  And so miracle I prayed for happened - our son stopped stuttering. He is a normally functioning teenager without inhibitions, that used to discriminate him among his peers. His life changed completely. He became a happy, self-confident teenager.
  It's all thanks to your wonderful method of treatment, patience and warmth you emanate. Together with my husband we would like to thank you and wish you happiness ans perseverance in multiplying the marvelous therapy results, that the grateful patients are.

  
  

  With respect and undying gratitude
  
  Zofia and Andrzej Świerczyńscy.
  Żary, December 2000
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• My impression of the speech therapy.

  
  

  I wanted to help my stammering son with his problem very much. For so many years I tried to cure it by seeing several therapists. Unfortunately, with no luck. We stayed hapless. Our last chance was the two week long therapy in Marginin, which Radek was taken into after initial consultation. And that is how we ended up in Margonin on 25.09.2000. When on the way to Margonin, I had some doubts about my own participation in the therapy. But I did understand it very soon. When my son was recorded while speaking, I realised that the stammer is a dysfunction disabling my 22 tear old son (student at that time) from entering in his adult and so full of unexpected situations life. I understood that by participating in the therapy I would be able to keep an eye on all the recommended exercises. All the exercises were previously very well explained and all the reasoning behind them. Daily long lasting classes were not monotonous. They were made very interesting and entertaining at times. I am very happy to have been able to participate in the course. I do not stammer, as an effect of the exercises I became stronger physically, gained greater self confidence and I believed in myself. I know now how to overcome stress and deal in difficult situations. I believe, that all the methods learnt, will work also in my life. I know that my son and I had to overcome the difficulties of the therapy together, to be able to understand and support him throughout the whole year. I consider this therapy as a miracle. I am not able to provide a definition of happiness as it has few dimensions. At this point in time, happiness to me is my ‘changed’ son Radek. He is like a new born person, with new speech and psychic. I no longer have to worry about his future. I believe, as a hard worker with an ambitious person, he will last till the end of the therapy and will do well in his life. What else can be better for a mother than a view of a smiled and full of happiness son. We were blessed by having such a great, warm, dedicated person as Mrs Bernadeta - speech therapist on our way.

  
  

  Barbara Jundziłł
  Margonin, 06.10.2000 r.
  (Wyświetl oryginał)

  
  

• I was stammering since I can remember...

  
  

  I was stammering since I can remember. No one have to explain me how hard it is to live with it. Over 19 years of my life I have experienced enough of humiliation to be an authority. When I found out about the therapy which brings solid and positive results, I ‘saw’ a chance for myself. The therapy was a success. Thanks to dedication of Mrs Bernadeta and my personal engagement as well as the support of the group, I no longer stammer. And I wish to thank all of you and Mrs Barnedeta for that.

  
  

  Mikołaj Urban
  Margonin 1999 r.
  (Wyświetl oryginał)

  
  

• I am so overwhelmed with the effects...

  
  

  I am so overwhelmed with the effects of the two week long therapy in Margonin. Our children are no longer full of sadness, complexes and stress but blossomed into beautiful flowers. Today, just after 12 days, we look at full of smile and happy to speak faces. They speak beautifully, they laugh and make jokes like if they never had problems before. And we, the parents, thanks to relaxation, we changed our approach to life…..

  
  

  Marzena Szczerbińska
  Margonin 19.12.1998 r.
  (Wyświetl oryginał)

  
  

• Dear Mrs Bernadeta Standowicz

  
  

  Every time when I think about the therapy that I attended with my son, I always think of you as a person that makes no division ill and illness free children. I heard few years ago that everything had been done already. My child was being misunderstood by society, but now speaks clearly, and what more I could want? I have always been very happy with Szymon’s achievements of any kind, but I have always wanted to help him if there is an opportunity to do so in order to make things even better. That was the reason of undergoing the therapy without hesitating. When I was leaving after the initial meeting in Szamocin, I couldn’t believe that Szymon was to start the therapy. When you saw him all tense and stiff fingers and you knew already, that it would take more to work on him. But you don’t choose only easy to cure patients either. You want to help every child that needs help. Thank you for YOUR GREAT HEART.

  
  

  The therapy is amazing. I was going for it with a huge hope as well as some doubts. I was scared that Szymon might not manage to fallow the exercises. Today I look into the future peacefully. I know my son is a very systematic and kind person and your work on his speech gave a wonderful result. The therapy brought fluency to his speech and thought us how to relax. My whole family is making use of those exercises which is extremely important. Szymon has just turned 13 and he managed to sleep peacefully only few times in his life. He used to drink herbal tea (and was under observation of a neurologist and a psychologist), he also has been taking peels recently. All that helped him to fall asleep only. He would wake up and stay awake for a little while. By the end of the first week in Marginin he was able to sleep during the whole night. I put away all the pills and herbs. Today Szymon has no problems with his sleep. This therapy not only cures the stammer but all the problems that come along with it. Moreover, the atmosphere during the course is very nice and helps with overcoming difficulties. I am very happy I could participate in the course.

  
  

  Alicja Tulińska
  Luboń 20.07.1997 r.
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